The Opposite Sex

This weekend, just like many before have confirmed certain thoughts that I, like the majority of females on the planet, have always thought: Men and women could not be more different.

We can all ramble on all we want about how when you find that special someone, all differences will be cast aside and bliss is all you encounter. That is complete bullshit. No matter who you are with, whether it be your significant other, male companions, or even your father, seeing eye-to-eye is a pretty far off notion.

Women like to be noticed. Not the center of attention all the time, obviously, but noticed when they take the time to do something special or have made a presence at all. There are some occasions when girls take more time to dress than others, wear special outfits, etc. Would it honestly hurt to say, "you look nice." ? No. We dish out compliments all the time, most of which go completely unheard of to their male destination. Little things like this matter the most to girls and it seems like guys cannot pick up on it at all. It may be rhetorical and cliche, but it really is the little things that matter. Doing things without us having to ask. Wanting to actually do them. To us, the male sex is pretty much oblivious to anything stated above.

And all men reading this will retort with, "Women make such a big deal about everything. If you expect us to notice things, you have to give a little too." A fine point, but think about it. How many times have we forgiven and forgotten about things you have done. Spending hours upon hours insisting to us, video games are worth it. (And worse, us actually playing.) Or you staying out late with friends and "forgetting" to call. Or all the times you say something completely unnecessary and hurtful. We are still with you, are we not? No matter how much of a complete jackass a guy seems, and said guy so much wants to throw the above line in a girl's face...remember first how much we DON'T make a big deal, before you say how much we do.

To a girl, a relationship...friendship or more...is the most significant thing in her life. When something goes wrong, say, a fight, this fight is the only thing she can think about. It hurts her, it eats away at her. Meanwhile, the male counterpart to this argument can sort things out. Friends, food, video games, relationship. The first three can be done without him even thinking about the relationship problem the girl is completely obsessed with. And I'm not saying that sometimes girls do not overreact, because clearly we do. And it is true that we tend to bring up the same argument again and again. But unless the female is completely insane...THERE IS A REASON FOR IT. And YOU, as a boyfriend, have not sufficiently helped her through it / get over it / etc. We are not completely irrational. We aren't always right.

But then again, neither are you.

There comes a time in every relationship where you must give and take a little. Where that point comes, is hard to say...maybe even impossible. But it is not right for one person to always make apologies, one person always to take the blame. As a female, I'm speaking not only from personal experience but as a witness. It's going to sound completely corny...but as a guy, you have certain "power" over a girl. Power is giving you way too much credit, but it's the only thing that is coming to mind. You have the ability to make a girl completely happy, or terribly miserable. We only hope to have the same affect over you, even if you never show it.

We may not ever understand each other, or ever agree the other is right. But for the sake of relationships, learn about your male or female companion, and don't take anything for granted. Just give a little. Save something that is probably worth saving.